Comments on: the “D” word http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/ Reviews & Reality Unscripted! Fri, 21 Nov 2008 05:49:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: jessica http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-38787 Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:23:41 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-38787 heather, we want you to come back to our playgroup. we miss you and the boys. heather, we want you to come back to our playgroup. we miss you and the boys.

]]> by: SouthernBell http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-32100 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 18:49:25 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-32100 Hi. I'm new to your page today. Hope it's cool for me to offer some words of wisdom from some gals who offered it to me when I was going through this same thing with my hubby. There is verse in the bible -- I know, it seems archaic -- but, girl, let me tell you. I stayed focused on it's message and what God calls me to do and it really has helped our marriage. Actually, God helped our marriage, not the verse. LOL Anyway ... 1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be submissive to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives -- when they see your respectful and pure conduct ... let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For me, this meant that I could win back my husband's heart by obeying God's word. Not only could I win his heart for me, but I can win it for God, too. Now, understand, having a quiet and gentle spirit doesn't mean you have to have a quiet personality. It's saying to gently and quietly love and serve your family. Your husband is called to forgive you as Christ has forgiven you. All you can work on right now is you. Even if he doesn't go to church, you can go without him. And trust, girl, trying to maneuver him to go will not work. God is the only one who will change his heart -- you have to trust God. Quietly and gently wait on God to do his work in your husband and in your heart. Sorry I've gone on and on. I just felt a real empathy for your situation since I've been there -- recently. Actually, still there. Just take one day at a time, you know? Hi. I’m new to your page today. Hope it’s cool for me to offer some words of wisdom from some gals who offered it to me when I was going through this same thing with my hubby.

There is verse in the bible — I know, it seems archaic — but, girl, let me tell you. I stayed focused on it’s message and what God calls me to do and it really has helped our marriage. Actually, God helped our marriage, not the verse. LOL
Anyway …
1 Peter 3:1
Likewise, wives, be submissive to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives — when they see your respectful and pure conduct … let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

For me, this meant that I could win back my husband’s heart by obeying God’s word. Not only could I win his heart for me, but I can win it for God, too. Now, understand, having a quiet and gentle spirit doesn’t mean you have to have a quiet personality. It’s saying to gently and quietly love and serve your family.

Your husband is called to forgive you as Christ has forgiven you.
All you can work on right now is you. Even if he doesn’t go to church, you can go without him. And trust, girl, trying to maneuver him to go will not work. God is the only one who will change his heart — you have to trust God. Quietly and gently wait on God to do his work in your husband and in your heart.

Sorry I’ve gone on and on. I just felt a real empathy for your situation since I’ve been there — recently. Actually, still there. Just take one day at a time, you know?

]]> by: Juliet http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-32066 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 15:55:38 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-32066 I am sure that in true Domestic Diva style you will come out with the life domestic life you want and deserve. I do hope hubby can get over his issue b/c 4 years is a long time to be mad at someone you are married to, geez! I hope you are not being made to feel guilty about this move that you obviously had a gut feeling and practical reasons to avoid. I am sure the snip-snip is a scary reality check for men. They are taught that their job in life is to spread their seed, but he will have to realize on his own that he has a lot more to offer the world. And from the looks of things, his seed spreading has done the world a lot of good. Now on to the next chapter. Go hug your kids. =) GOod lUck! I am sure that in true Domestic Diva style you will come out with the life domestic life you want and deserve. I do hope hubby can get over his issue b/c 4 years is a long time to be mad at someone you are married to, geez! I hope you are not being made to feel guilty about this move that you obviously had a gut feeling and practical reasons to avoid.

I am sure the snip-snip is a scary reality check for men. They are taught that their job in life is to spread their seed, but he will have to realize on his own that he has a lot more to offer the world. And from the looks of things, his seed spreading has done the world a lot of good. Now on to the next chapter. Go hug your kids. =) GOod lUck!

]]> by: Amy http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31842 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 22:08:27 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31842 Good to hear you're doing well. I've gone through something similar, something I wish not to share with anyone else. I do know how you feel and I'm glad things worked out for the better. Good to hear you’re doing well.

I’ve gone through something similar, something I wish not to share with anyone else. I do know how you feel and I’m glad things worked out for the better.

]]> by: Lisa http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31831 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 21:05:40 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31831 I'm so happy to hear things are better for you! I read your blog daily and have been concerned about you and your family (I feel I know you through your writings). Thank you for updating...I'm sure it was hard to be so honest about something so personal. I think it's a great idea for you to do things as a family, but don't forget about "couple time" too. And as far as church~ GO! remember the old saying but "The family that prays together, stays together". I'll keep you all in my prayers! I’m so happy to hear things are better for you! I read your blog daily and have been concerned about you and your family (I feel I know you through your writings). Thank you for updating…I’m sure it was hard to be so honest about something so personal. I think it’s a great idea for you to do things as a family, but don’t forget about “couple time” too. And as far as church~ GO! remember the old saying but “The family that prays together, stays together”. I’ll keep you all in my prayers!

]]> by: Jessica http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31760 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 14:59:47 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31760 I am so sorry to hear that things were heading this far south for you, but it sounds like things will get better. My hubby and I have been down this road before... and I do not wish it upon anyone. Again, I am glad to hear things are getting better. :) Hopefully the lines of communcation will open up a bit more after this! I am so sorry to hear that things were heading this far south for you, but it sounds like things will get better. My hubby and I have been down this road before… and I do not wish it upon anyone. Again, I am glad to hear things are getting better. :) Hopefully the lines of communcation will open up a bit more after this!

]]> by: Mouseclone http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31758 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 14:51:40 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31758 I must say grats on holding it together. I'm sure you are a great person. I don't know much about having the bullets taken out of the gun yet, but women go though issues as well when they can no longer bare children, he could be going though the same thing. the big D is bad for kids as well. I would hate to see your little one caught up in that crap. Be well, and things will work out. Remember one more thing as well, boys are raise to be men, and men rule the house, or so they say. I do feel strongly that it is a mans job to make decisions and it is a womans job to support those decisions, unless of course they are just way off base. If he is wanting to move and you have not money then move to a place that is cheaper and save that money, don't move just for moving though. best of luck to you. I must say grats on holding it together. I’m sure you are a great person. I don’t know much about having the bullets taken out of the gun yet, but women go though issues as well when they can no longer bare children, he could be going though the same thing.

the big D is bad for kids as well. I would hate to see your little one caught up in that crap. Be well, and things will work out. Remember one more thing as well, boys are raise to be men, and men rule the house, or so they say. I do feel strongly that it is a mans job to make decisions and it is a womans job to support those decisions, unless of course they are just way off base. If he is wanting to move and you have not money then move to a place that is cheaper and save that money, don’t move just for moving though.

best of luck to you.

]]> by: Donna http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31748 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 14:08:40 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31748 Hope things continue to go smooth. God is faithful and doesn't want to see your marriage end either. I can see how it could be hard for a man to go through a vasectomy. Pray for him, LOTS. It is hard to be a man, or so they say! Hope things continue to go smooth. God is faithful and doesn’t want to see your marriage end either.
I can see how it could be hard for a man to go through a vasectomy. Pray for him, LOTS. It is hard to be a man, or so they say!

]]> by: Amanda http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31740 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 13:08:04 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31740 Not sure who the "concerned citizen" listed above is, but he/she sounds more like they need to work on their own anger issues. Anyway, I'm so glad to hear that things are at least *a little* better. JM & I haven't really been through anything tough during our marriage (yet), but after 7 1/2 years of dating before marriage, we definitely had our VERY hard times, as well. Every couple goes through it in some way or another, so there is nothing to be embarrased or ashamed about. It is HOW you get through it and what you make of it that is the important part! OH, and I think the family church trips are a great idea! ;o) Not sure who the “concerned citizen” listed above is, but he/she sounds more like they need to work on their own anger issues.

Anyway, I’m so glad to hear that things are at least *a little* better. JM & I haven’t really been through anything tough during our marriage (yet), but after 7 1/2 years of dating before marriage, we definitely had our VERY hard times, as well. Every couple goes through it in some way or another, so there is nothing to be embarrased or ashamed about. It is HOW you get through it and what you make of it that is the important part! OH, and I think the family church trips are a great idea! ;o)

]]> by: Brie http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31735 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:27:20 +0000 http://thedomesticdiva.org/blog/2007/08/29/the-d-word/#comment-31735 So glad to hear that things are slowly working themselves out. I know how hard marriage can be, it is an everyday challenge and you basically get out what you put in. I've learned that communication is the key so keep the lines open with each other. Going to church and family dinners are a great place to start and also a good way to keep the family unit as one. Do what you have to to work things out. Take care. So glad to hear that things are slowly working themselves out. I know how hard marriage can be, it is an everyday challenge and you basically get out what you put in. I’ve learned that communication is the key so keep the lines open with each other. Going to church and family dinners are a great place to start and also a good way to keep the family unit as one. Do what you have to to work things out. Take care.

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